I know that for men this is especially difficult. Telling another man that you appreciate them or even dare you say, you love them. No, your father or favorite uncle doesn’t count, sorry.
Men, Imagine this: You’re having beers and wings at a sports bar with your best male friend. Its not too noisy, and the T.V.’s are not too loud. So you turn to look at your boy right in the eye and be like: I just wanted to tell you that we’ve been friends for a long time and I appreciate you and our friendship….and then SILENCE.
Yeah, awkward as hell right? but why? And don’t start talking about that homophobe, alpha male bullshit. Really think for a moment and ask yourself why is awkward when your expressing how you feel to someone special in your life, even if its man to man. Lets be honest some men are not even comfortable telling females that they are appreciated and loved. But ill come back to the men in a minute.
Now ladies you are a little better with emotions and telling other women how you feel. But lets move on for a second about communicating our feelings to the same sex. what is the big deal when it comes to expressing yourself and paying another person a compliment. For women this goes far beyond “oh that dress is pretty” or “that’s a cute top” or “I love those shoes Girl!” Some women really have to dig deep without the jealousy or possible envy, to be able to tell another women you appreciate them. Ladies do you think you can honestly tell another woman that you appreciate and value them if she has a good man and is happy? Especially, if you are looking for the same thing?
Now back to the men. Do you think you can tell someone that you appreciate them if they are more successful and financially stable then you? Or maybe has a great body and interesting hobbies? Men we have to let go of our egos and let people know we value them no matter what.
Men and women should never waste a moment to tell someone that they are valued. Men and women should never let jealousy, envy, hate, ego or wanting something that someone else has, get in the way of expressing appreciation and gratitude. Just think how good it feels when someone tells you that they appreciate you. And if you have never experienced that then you should find people in your life who do.